Top 8 Ways To Reclaim Your Self-Worth (for good)
“Wouldn’t it be powerful if you fell in love with yourself so deeply that you would do just about anything if you knew that it would make you happy? This is precisely how much life loves you and wants you to nurture yourself. The deeper you love yourself, the deeper the universe will affirm your self-worth. Then you can enjoy a lifelong love affair that brings you the richest fulfillment from the inside out.”
– Alan Cohen
For quite some time now, I’ve been working on self-acceptance and have come to realise that there really is no clear cookie-cutter solution.
Getting to a place of overall self-acceptance is a life-long journey that requires us to continually grow, stretch and fine-tune our awareness.
I believe behind every rhyme, there is reason; that there is method to life’s madness.
The highlights are reminders of life’s true magnificence.
Yet lurking in the shadows of every challenge, there is a lesson waiting to be found.
Because every experience in my life, from the shots of pure bliss right down to the s**tty pain, has paved the path to where I am now.
We’ve all got stories we play out that come from our past – awful stories of failure, rejection and fear.
“I’m not good enough”.
I spent much of my life dancing in the valley of inadequacy, jumping through hoops to be loved and appreciated.
I wanted to feel useful, loved, needed.
Mattering to other people was so important to me. It didn’t matter about me as long as I was approved and accepted by others.
My inner environment and lack of self respect only led to outer chaos through everything I did. Rarely was I at peace with my efforts.
As it turns out, Life threw me a curve ball. A really, really hard one.
Chronic illness became my teacher; pain my muse.
It cracked me wide open to face myself in mind, body and spirit in order to let true healing begin.
It was then that I finally realised I needed to accept ALL of me; from my bright sparkly strengths to my so-called “weaknesses”, including my chronic disease.
Enter acceptance. You old, tattered chestnut, you.
Realising on a cellular level that I am worthy, I shifted from being hell bent on the external need for validation and approval, to complete and utter acceptance of me as a whole.
My heart naturally opened. My perception of myself shifted. New possibilities swept in.
Through this softer energy of embracing what is and letting go of the inner battle, I learned to open up to all parts of me, and heal those rejected aspects of myself and my personality. Honouring every ounce of Rosie allowed me to rest and renew. And from that relaxed and receptive space, I now gain the clarity and strength needed to create a happy, healthy and inspiring life.
“When we truly embrace acceptance, that’s when our body exhales and can begin healing.” – Kris Carr
So let me turn this to you, beautiful.
Accepting the now, sitting comfortably with whatever rises up to meet you with no judgment, however awkward, is essential.
Then look for the lessons (they’re there) to help you grow.
Joyfully. Soulfully. Gracefully.
Make peace with where you are in your life. Accept who you have become. Embrace what you have created. Both your light and dark.
Once you begin to treat yourself with radical self-respect and love, other people will see you differently and react to you differently. Your self-perception and projection move from self-doubt and lack of confidence to a strong sense of self-certainty and spark.
Love yourself unconditionally.
Nurture and nourish yourself.
- Witness the voice of ego (aka your inner critic) without judgment when it rears its ugly head.
You take YOU everywhere you go. The internal conversation you have with yourself day in and day out colours your entire life.
Until you learn to tame the maddening monkey chatter of your mind – and start living more from your soul space – there is no peace.
- Allow your breath to be your guide back to peace.
That harsh inner voice isn’t being realistic or telling it like it is. Your inner voice is kind, supportive, loving. Unconditional.
You can even choose a mantra (aka soul vitamin) to help bring you back to the present.
Try: I accept myself unconditionally right now. (Get it here!) Repeat, Repeat and Repeat!
- Forgive – yourself and others (but especially you).
Forgiving yourself is a huge step in the process of becoming free. Release those past experiences (those chains are really what’s crippling you) and embrace a new reality.
Try not to get hung up about the how and instead allow. When you accept forgiveness as your plan for happiness, then love will lead the way.
- Welcome in loving relationships that support you.
Let go of relationships that no longer serve you and bring you down. Surround yourself with those who will lift you higher.
- Lay in the sun.
Seriously – vitamin D is the one stop cure.
- Move your beautiful body with joy.
Moving your body in ways that you love gives you easy access to those warm and fuzzy feel-good feelings. Exercise aids in deep breathing, gives you clarity and builds self-respect.
You are worthy. Get outside, breathe the fresh air and feel alive again.
- Eat plants (nom, nom, nom).
Eating real food as mother nature intended, helps to remove “soot” that has built up in your body and leads to incredible cleansing.
You will feel a sense of absolute relief, ever increasing energy and healing on multiple levels – physically, mentally, emotionally.
Smiling has been scientifically shown to increase serotonin (one of the master feel-good hormones in our brain) in both the giver and the receiver.
See? Better already!
Life loves you. Exactly the way you are. Today. Breathe it in, beautiful one.
In what ways can you cultivate self-love and acceptance?
Open your beautiful heart and share with me in the comments below, you just might inspire someone else.
All love & acceptance,
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