Letting It Go
Do you ever find yourself running circles on some sort of hamster wheel that is your mind?
Get a bit too caught up in your own head sometimes?
Wind up anxious about things that haven’t even happened yet?
My constant traveling companion wants to know all the juicy details ahead of time.
Where am I going? What am I doing? What if this happens, or that happens? What will I do in this situation? What if I can’t do this?
Quite frankly, the unknown scares the s**t out of me. My mind creates certainty and control and that mind never ceases to jump straight back on the hamster wheel conjuring up all the what if’s, anxious, crazy scenarios from playing out.
I wanted to use the wind to fly my kite but was unwilling to release the string that I so tightly held onto.
I held onto my desires with limited awareness of who I really was, and doing this blocked me from those very desires.
It was then that I learned that in every moment, no matter the situation, I could choose to let it all go.
So, when those feelings and thoughts came up, I acknowledged their entry and simply let them go. I learned to surrender to my life, to the flow of what is. I relinquished any attachments I had to the result or outcome of what I wanted.
Here’s what it looks like:
It is a drop from the head to the heart. From future to present. From fear to love.
Accept. Open up. Embrace.
I let go, I surrender.
I am unattached to the outcome of it all.
And with just that intention, I am free.
I am free.
I am free.
It opened up this deep space within me.
Mind, body, soul.
And in doing so, freed up space in my heart and my mind.
While uncertainty is unsettling, it also became the source of my greatest joy. Because life is uncertain and can’t be controlled. Because control is nothing but an illusion of safety.
In detaching, I formed unquestioning belief in my true self.
Once I actually released the string, and the future became the present, it was NOTHING like I had conjured up in my mind. In fact, it couldn’t have gone more perfect! Because I went in with nothing to prove and nothing to lose.
“There is nothing you can lose that will diminish your wholeness
and nothing you can gain that will add to who you are.
You are already whole.”
– Deepak Chopra
So, how do you do this? How do you begin to release that need to control so that you can begin to drop in to your natural state of flow?
Through acceptance. Acceptance of what is.
Make peace with where you are in your life. Accept who you have become. Embrace what you have created. And then, allow it to be. Stop trying to change it, control it or make it better. Just let it be.
Quite simply, you can’t force things that aren’t meant to be. Control is rooted in fear and I’ve noticed that when we cling onto and control things, it’s because we’re afraid of what might happen if we don’t. Control means we’ve attached ourselves to a specific outcome — an outcome we’re sure is right for us, as if we always know best, which unsurprisingly, we don’t.
When we step back and let things flow, they do.
But better. Way better.
Have you ever pushed and pushed and pushed with something, then hit that point where you find yourself saying “Ok, whatever will be, will be” and with a change in course, the result has far exceeded your expectations? I know I have – many times.
Uncertainty is certain. When we embrace and flow with that uncertainty, release any self imposed limitations and allow the magic of fate to step in, our life will unfold in unimaginable ways.
Trust and let go.
It doesn’t mean quitting. It means you’ve laid your inner burden down. Now… you can transform.
“When nothing is certain, everything is possible.”
Try this on for size: write out this empowering affirmation on some pretty paper and stick it somewhere you can see it every day..
“I believe. I trust. I let go.”
Then set your intentions, take the necessary action steps, and relinquish any attachments to the result. Wonderful opportunities will come your way, I promise.
Let go to life as it is at any moment, trust the process, and know that everything is exactly as it’s meant to be; that no matter what, you will be alright.
Riddle me this, my gorgeous partner-in-releasing-that-which-no-longer-serves:
Where in your life can you let go and let life flow?