How to Stop Freaking Out
It doesn’t happen often, but a couple of days ago, I freaked out.
For a brief moment I got overwhelmed by the outside forces in my life, and lost control of myself. Fortunately, I managed to turn things around. And best of all, I learned a great lesson from the experience.
Ok first things first. Why did I freak out?
Well, my MacBook Pro (which has absolutely everything on it relating to my life and business) got stolen. Then, the new one I bought in my frantic state was the wrong one and only after an entire day of transferring from my backup, did this realisation hit me, when it didn’t actually transfer.
On top of that, after madly rushing back to the store to get the correct computer, and finally managing to transfer everything over (yet another 8 hours later), the entire system shut down on me due to corrupted files ad interrupted updates, etc… and I was back to square one all over again.
Oh and my clients cancelled, my big secret signature project got wiped out. And that was all on top of my regular stuff I’m working on every day.
In a nutshell, s**t happened. A lot of it, in a short amount of time.
Even though I’ve greatly increased my “freak out” threshold over the last few years, I reached a point where I couldn’t take it anymore.
I was freaking out… man.
But, it only lasted for about a minute.
Deep down, I knew that what I was doing was useless, and destructive (raises cortisol levels in our body). One thing’s for sure, freaking out is NOT a part of Happiness Lifestyle.
So I decided to rally. I took a few deep breaths, and questioned my perception around this situation unfolding.
I realised that overwhelm is a GOOD sign.
It’s a sign that there are big things happening in our life, that we are being called to create more space, to pay more attention, to grow.
What is important is how we respond to overwhelm. Do we get lost in it, or move through it?
Staying in overwhelm is saying “I can’t handle this” and “this shouldn’t be happening.”
Inherently, this frame is lacking in gratitude, perspective that there’s a bigger picture at play, and the ability to see possibility.
From this frame we forget that we have handled everything in our lives before this, and that we will handle this, too.
Moving through overwhelm is saying “I’m being called to pay attention” and “I’m expanding”.
From this frame, we can find great gratitude from the gifts of abundance, for being stretched, and for the opportunity to grow.
We recognise that there is a bigger picture at play, and that there are gifts we haven’t yet uncovered.
When you choose this shift of perception, you don’t need to find the “silver lining” – the consolation prize.
Instead you mine for gold at the heart of the experience, understanding that the whole thing is a gift that you just may not be seeing yet.
While overwhelm can seem like our demise, if we listen carefully, it’s actually asking us to live.
From this new perspective, I asked myself:
“What needs to happen now?”
“What’s one thing I can do right now to start fixing this mess and keep moving forward?”
The moment I started thinking about this, I stopped thinking about the mess.
I figured the first thing I needed to do was get my mac sorted in order to regain my mojo.
Once I took the first step, my anxiety magically dissolved.
I took a few more breaths, and I figured a plan of attack for the rest of the day.
I put a good song on, danced a little and even managed to step away from it all, to attend a deep ecology class.
My happy was on.
The mojo was back, babeh.
As I shifted into this beautiful space of awareness, I realised this great truth:
If we focus our mind completely on the solution, there’s no space left in our mind for worry, for stress, for freaking out. This in turn gives us the mental clarity to figure out what to do next.
Generally, when we freak out, it’s because the situation in front of us looks like a mountain, and we’re afraid we won’t be able to climb it. No matter how tall the mountain is, the first step is simply to take the first step. To look down, put a foot forward, and go from there.
As Dale Carnegie says: Inaction breeds doubt and fear. Action breeds confidence and courage.
By the way, it all worked out way better than I expected.
I have a faster and more efficient computer.
I managed to get most of my work back and I even took time out to head to my secret beach, chill out and watch the sunrise the following morning.
And it was one of the most beautiful I’ve ever seen. The Universe’s way of rewarding me for staying in peace during stressful situations? I think so. 🙂
Moral of the Story:
When things get crazy, hectic, out-of-control, don’t let yourself freak out.
- Rather than trying to hold it all together, simply hold it.
Take a few deep breaths and focus your attention on the one thing you can do right there & then to start fixing the situation. Then, get busy and do it.
- Choose what balls you’re going to drop.
Because when you’re being stretched to your limits, balls will be dropped. No juggler will go from juggling 3 balls to 5, and not drop a few while they learn. It’s okay. What’s important is that we consciously choose which balls we’re going to drop, so we don’t end up inadvertently “dropping” our relationship, our health, our sleep, or our sanity.
From there, you’ll be on a roll, and before you know it you’ll have turned things around, and you’ll be feeling good again.
Over to you now, my loves.
Do you have any good tips to turn things around when you get into overwhelm and start freaking out?
Hit the comments below and let me know. Your comment might be the one thing someone needs to read in order to spark shifts in their own life.
In full support of you,